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With these Top 10 Success Factors you will get the range of dynamics
that
determine your success (or the lack of it). They also help you better
understand others and that their behavior is not so much about
you; it rather
comes from the interplay of all these elements.
1. Your resources (money, time,
space, talent, knowledge, experience, attitude/personal style): if you have enough of these, you can achieve almost
anything. All these resources can be highly leveraged to increase the
others. Without a critical resource you might not
even start.
2. Your imposed
limitations A.
Tradition and assumed roles: Tradition, like assumed roles (child,
parent,
provider, home-maker, etc.), are tribal in origin and thus survival-based.
Tradition might pressure you to do things a certain way, or you might be
excluded - as a perceived threat to the tribe. If there is pressure, then they
are limiting you. Assumed
roles cover your true identity forcing you to define yourself only by your roles. You are more than your roles.
They are usually restricting your behavior and priorities, sometimes at great
cost/loss.
B. Childhood conditioning: the first 2 years of your life
dictate a lot of your
thinking, perceiving, and relating today. How you were brought up, familial
expectations and rules become deeply ingrained and reinforce
certain tendencies of yours,
both good and bad .
C. Unresolved emotional trauma: hurtful past events leave open wounds (fear
of potential pain/failure), which significantly limit your present and
future behavior. Terrific opportunities are missed or avoided because of unhealed
past. Fear can be actually a good thing if you use it to advance yourself in life.
It is not to be eliminated, but tamed instead.
D. Tolerations : they are compromises you once bought into, things that now bug you,
sap your energy, drain away your contentment and your good fortune.
Once recognized, they can be eliminated to free up more of your life
force.
E. Compulsions/addictions : there are countless of them
beside alcohol and
drugs, providing numbing against stress or diversion against boredom,
but at a very high price. They control you and significantly restrict your ability to choose
freely.
3. Your personal environments (living/work/relationships/cultural environments): they largely affect your goals, assumptions, personal direction,
drive, and rate of evolution as a human being.
You have far more choice and permission today to change
unsupportive environments and
choose the ones that evolve you instead.
4. Your supportive structures (know-how, momentum and synergy):
the strategy/system/know-how is
paramount; nevertheless, it is only valuable
when you apply it consistently to reach a certain momentum. Moreover, when
you use in synergy with others, the results are exponentially increased.
5. Your models and examples: you tend to
do what you do because you've seen others do it and it worked for them. So to whom
are you looking as your model?
6. Your life vision: is the
most powerful motivator and evolver you can ever
have. The clearer your vision, the higher your focus.
Without a life vision, you are most likely default to the familiar, even if lame or
proven not to work.
In order to uncover your vision, you must increase your sense of possibility
beyond the "reasonable" thinking.
7. Your definition of and your commitment to
success: what does "success"
mean to you? A high-paying job? A rewarding career? A profitable business of
your own? Still in love while growing old? An expensive car? Being able to
contribute? Owning a house in a high-class area? Staying healthy? Having a
university degree? Being part of a united family? Making a difference in the
world?
What's your own definition of "success"? Not your parents' or your spouse's -
yours . What makes you tick?
Once you know what you're after (and why , of course), how committed are you to achieving it? Are you
willing to do whatever it might take? If
not, it means you might have not been true to yourself when you defined
"success"; you probably adopted others' definition.
8. The totality of YOU: A. Your self-awareness: your ability to understand who you are, why are you
doing what you are doing, how you come across, and what your body, mind, and spirit are telling you.
With a developed self-awareness you understand your life's patterns, why
things happen in a certain way. You tend to make better choices for yourself.
Without self-awareness, you tend to repeat destructive patterns, ignore your
intuition, and miss out on the rich subtleties of life.
B. Your perspective: both the angle and the viewing
height you see life from.
The broader and higher the perspective, the clearer the view.
Narrow perspective results in lack of context, minimal understanding, and over-reacting.
C. Your personality: your natural tendencies that are difficult to change.
Problems occur when you are not fully aware of them and can't leverage them to your advantage.
D. Your values, beliefs, and needs: Values are your personal priorities that
orient your life. When your values are clear, you know where you're going.
Beliefs are internalized assumptions that save you time and filter information.
Problems occur when you accept others' beliefs without thinking, and when you don't upgrade them, i.e. use beliefs
that don't support you.
Needs are your non-negotiable requirements for proper functioning. Problems occur when needs
are not met, or are treated like options. Once defined, they are usually easy to satisfy.
9. Your personal power: is measured by
your ability to take action. You can be
fearless, and have the nicest personality. You can possess the
most valuable talents, and have the most helpful connections. You can have the clearest vision, and the best
strategy. You can even have all the money and the time in the world. But until you take action, nothing is
going to change. Taking action is a
trainable habit. Once it becomes a habit, it propels you
towards achieving whatever you want!
10. Ecology: aligning what you want with
what the Universe wants, i.e.
continuous evolution, you can ease your efforts
exponentially. For example, adding value or
solving a problem for another as your chosen
target gathers all kinds of invisible forces to your aid. You don't feel
any resistance, only
a complete sense of flow.
Working with a coach leverage all the above factors to
your advantage.
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